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måndag 7 december 2009

Anger Management and Violence at Home.

By Colin Jones

How is anger management connected with domestic violence? Well, put simply, most people that abuse their spouse in this kind of situation, get angry due to some anti-social disorder in that person's subconscious mind. Anger is one of the main characteristics of personality disorder, which include paranoia, schizophrenia, schizoid, antisocial, psychopathic, histrionic and sociopathic personalities.

Most of the people that are abusive in relationships have antisocial personalities. The antisocial personality type often attacks when he or she is drunk or under the influence of some other drug. This is not true in all instances of course, but it is true in most. Antisocial personality types often disregard rules and regulations and often feel they are authorized to do so. Antisocial personality types are controlling and if you do not conform to their authority, they often vent their anger in a controlling or violent manner.

Anti-social types will often humiliate, intimidate, brutally physically abuse and mentally belittle their spouse, but domestic abuse doesn't usually finish there. This type of person has never shown himself to be a likely candidate for anger management recovery. In other words, men that batter their wives will usually continue to do so until someone gets seriously injured. It is not a good idea to get mixed up with this sort of person, as there is rarely any hope at all of them responding to anger management methods. This sort of person will often beat a spouse, until all they want is to kill them. This means that someone could very likely die, since this sort of person will get angrier and angrier as the years pass and will rarely seek help in order to manage their anger in domestic violence situations.

Even if he or she does get anger management help for domestic violence, it very often fails. It is not recommended that you start a relationship with this type of person. The signs are a wild appearance or wild expressions, laughing for no apparent reason, laughing at a situation where a person was humiliated, outbursts of anger for no reason et cetera. This sort of person is superficial and will often lead you to believe that he or she is a model for society, when behind closed doors the brute shows himself.

Of course, hatred is the underlying source of this person's anger, and hatred has proven to kill. Often deep-seated jealousy also underlies the anger issues within these types of people. Many of this type of angry persons take drugs, including cocaine, crack, marijuana and others. They often exceed the safety limit for alcohol consumption and this only increases the chances of them flying off the handle.

An example of bad anger management and domestic violence can be seen in a small town called Dowagiac in Michigan, a man tried to kill several women but was still allowed to walk the streets. Not much anger management help was provided to this person and often his outrageous attacks were simply because he felt that he could not control his victims. The victims were left without justice and a few even believed that they could change his angry ways.

Pretty soon he was sitting in the county gaol on a number of charges, including assault of a police officer and hit and run. The police, according to witnesses, claim that the criminal had a weapon and was drunk when he fled in order to elude the police and marijuana was found in his car. This person had a continuous history of brutality but the justice system let those victims down, which led to more anger management problems.

Another example of anger is in borderline personality types. These people, when feeling alone, will attack others. Sometimes they are physically abusive, but most of the time they are verbally and mentally abusive. The spouse has only to go to work and when he or she returns home, they will be accused of doing something wrong.

The abusive person might even call the workplace of the spouse numerous times to verify that he or she has not run off with someone else. This is another type of angry person that rarely recovers, and like the antisocial personality types, these types are just as dangerous and manipulative.

Paranoid types are also dangerous and manipulative but their anger can never be predicted. In most cases, these types act on voices perceived to be inside or outside their head. Like the antisocial types, the paranoid type rarely has justifiable reason for their behaviour. In most cases, it is merely a control issue. This means that if the victim is uncontrollable he or she will react angrily and violently.

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