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söndag 29 november 2009

Unforgettable First Impressions

By Cathy Svedka

The advent of internet dating definitely changes first impression circumstances. It's entirely possible that you'll be going out on a first date with someone that you've been communicating with for weeks or even months.

Then again, many of us haven't given up on encountering eligible singles in the real world as opposed to the internet dating world. Truthfully, most of us are doing both. And why not?! Let's face it, we're all busy and we all want to maximize our dating potential.

The variations in rules between the different arenas of romantic meetings can be a bit daunting. If you met person A in location B, is it okay to suggest activity C on the first date? Fortunately, some things stay universally true. At the top of this list? The ways in which you make an unforgettable first impression.

First impressions don't care where or how you met. Whether at a friend's party, doing the face to face thing with that cutie you met on an internet dating site or meeting someone in your professional circle; you want someone to think the best of you. The tactics are pretty straightforward.

1. Look 'em in the eye and make it last

By making direct and lasting eye contact with your new acquaintance you're sure to communicate not only your confidence and honesty but also your interest. Fleeting glances are fine if you only want to sneak a peak, but locking looks opens the door to further communication.

Want to make a good impression but get bored of all that eye-time? Play little memory games with yourself; think about the exact color and shape of their eyes, as well as other qualities about their face. That way, you're not only making yourself come off as interested and connective but you're committing their face to your memory.

2. Let them have the control

Let's say you've been chatting up some fabulous new find and you find yourself in the midst of that age old dilemma; you want to appear interested, but not over eager. What do you do? Try letting go of the reigns and let them take charge. While they're talking match their energy and level of excitement instead of setting the tone yourself. This way you can also be sure that you're not hogging the conversation.

3. Almost touch, but don't

While getting almost touchy feeling isn't appropriate in a professional setting where all that's required at the beginning and end of a meeting is a firm handshake, getting into someone personal space without touching them can be really flirty.

Almost, but not quite, touching someone's knee or shoulder will suggest a sexual attraction and will leave them wanting more. Women are especially receptive to this because it shows that although you're interested, you also respect her boundaries.

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